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Why Presence?

Why Presence? You learn through experience. In fact, the only way you learn is through experience. Your brain – that amazing complex mess of neurons and ganglia and grey matter and synapses and hemispheres and all of that stuff – sits in the darkened...

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Positive Feedback

Positive Feedback Self-With-Others is based in unconditional positive feedback. Unconditional. Positive. Feedback. I don’t mean constructive criticism – where you praise someone, and follow it with: ‘…but….’. Unconditional positive feedback means commenting only on things you think the person you are guiding has done...

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What Is Charisma?

What Is Charisma? What is charisma? We all want it – to be able to ‘turn it on’: to become the centre of the conversation, with people hanging on our every word, effortlessly commanding attention, respect and silence. But what is it? Is it...

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Light is Stronger than Dark.

Light is Stronger than Dark. A single candle can illuminate the world. It’s the oldest human story of all. Photo by Ehteshamul Haque Adit on Unsplash “Look at how a single candle can both defy and define the darkness” Anne Frank It’s deep winter. Snow’s been lying...

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GET REAL! What is Authenticity?

Get Real! What is Authenticity? Authentic. Behave authentically. Respond authentically. Make an authentic offer. Be who you really are. What does this mean? ‘I am large, I contain multitudes.’ (Walt Whitman) I interact in multiple ways with my world. As environments and contexts change,...

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Suffering or Safety

Are you Suffering or are you Safe? ‘Isolated’ and ‘Insulated’ – in English – share the same origin: the Latin word ‘Insula’ (island). Essentially they are the same word. One suggests excluding an individual from their surroundings.The other suggests protecting an individual from threat.One...

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Tools and Time

One of the things that most bothers me when I mentor or coach people, is when they say: ‘I’m not confident — never have been, never will be.’ It’s like they think they lack some ‘gene’ for confidence. It bothers me because if you...

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What is Presence?

What is ‘Presence’? What is presence? What does this word mean – ‘presence’? There’s a whole industry, of which I’m part, concerned with training people in ‘presence’. There are numerous books written about it – some even called ‘Presence’! I’m writing my own book...

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